“White males are most responsible for the destruction of human life and environment on the planet today.  Yet who is controlling the supposed revolution to change all that?  White males.”  Robin Morgan

Read this years ago, but thought I’d read it again as I hadn’t been able to afford to actually buy it back then …

Talking about how men typically behave, he says they “[disregard] completely the reality of anyone who is not fawning and flattering and full of awe for our masculine prerogative …” (p24). 

Well-put.

“… [M]en experience combat as the ultimate test of their masculinity …  If we did not hold on so desperately to masculinity, might we not also then be able to let go of warfare?” (p77).

“Though they [men in the antiwar movement] espoused nonviolent, equitable, and nonhierarchical forms of social organization, they continued to act toward women in male-supremacist ways.  it became clear that they were interested only in rearrangements of men’s power over other men, not in any fundamental change in men’s relationships with women” (p79).

“Without the absolute right to true reproductive self-determination, women as a class will continue to be exploited and manipulated in service to the economic, sexual, and psychological priorities of men” (p81). 

So well-put.

“Men, it is said, do not express their feelings—or if men do, they do so only with great difficulty.  Both women and men believe that men are unemotive and unemotional, that inside men’s tender psyches is a wellspring of feelings, stonewalled and speechless.  Men respect and fear other men whose feelings are undisclosed and well defended.  women also respect and fear such men whose feelings lie dormant beneath a permafrost of mastery.  And women who live with them implore them privately to emote just a little, begging them to say what they are feeling, begging them to warm.  But men do not express their feelings.  Or so the story goes.

     “In fact, throughout history, men as a class have always expressed their feelings, eloquently and extensively: Men have expressed their feelings about women, death, and absent fathers and turned those feeling into religions.  Men have expressed their feelings about women, wealth, possession, and territory and turned those feelings into laws and nation-states.  men have expressed their feelings about women, murder, and the masculinity of other men and from those feelings forged batttalions and detonable devices.  Men have expressed their feelings about women, fucking, and female rage against subjection and formed those feelings into psychiatry.  men have institutionalized their feelings, so that whether or not a particular man is feeling the feeling at a particular time, the feeling is being expressed through the institutions men have made” (p91-2).

“Given the current frequency of abortions in the United States, it can be predicted that over the course of all American women’s lifetimes, two out of three will have an abortion.  And the rate of involvement for men is the same: Over the course of their lifetimes, two out of three men will have been responsible for impregnating a woman who subsequently decides to abort.”  

Of course!  For almost every abortion there is a nonconsensual impregnation, a whachamacallit, a … rape.  If men didn’t rape, women wouldn’t need an abortion.  So men, those of you who are so against abortion, stop impregnating women who are not enthusiastically consenting to having a child!  Duh!!

“The history of men’s ideas is the history of what men feel and the history of what men feel to be real.  As a class, men never feel more real than when their penises are erect and penetrating—and never feel less real than when their penises are flaccid.  As a result, men’s ideas about what is real, what is objectively as real as themselves, tend to be utterly self-referential and almost entirely phallocentric” (para 97). 

Wow.  Just—  Wow.    That explains sooooooooooo much.  An argument against men in power if there ever was one.

“…men don’t like the feeling of not feeling like having sex. … It’s as if men don’t really feel their male identity unless they’re experiencing their own body in a way that is explicitly, culturally, sexually phallic” (p110-111).

Aha.  I’ve never really understood viagra etc.: here’s a tube of poison ivy sap; go ahead and spread it all over your body.  Why would you want to create an itch, a desire to scratch?  Don’t you have enough to do with meeting the itches and desires you already … just have? 

“Sexual freedom has never really meant that individuals should have sexual self-determination …  it has been about maintaining men’s superior status, men’s power over women; and it has been about sexualizing women’s inferior status, men’s subordination of women” (p127).

“Pornography institutionalizes the sexuality that both embodies and enacts male supremacy. … Pornography keeps sexism sexy” (p129-130)

“Homophobia keeps men doing to women what they would not want done to themselves.  There’s not the same sexual harassment of men that there is of women on the street or in the workplace or in the university; there’s not nearly the same extent of rape …  And that’s thanks to homophobia …”

“We’ve got to be telling our sons that if a man gets off by putting women down, it’s not okay.

“We’ve got to be telling merchants that if they peddle women’s bodies and lives for men’s consumption and entertainment, it’s not okay.

“We’ve got to be telling other men that if you let the pornographers lead you by the nose (or any other body part) into believing that women exist to be tied up and hung up and beaten and raped, it’s not okay” (p135).

And keep in mind that he wrote this thirty years ago.

Lastly, “If it’s true that men are the doers, the agents of history, the performers, the active ones, how come men are so passive [when it comes to women’s rights]? (p183).